When you are at school you are blissfully unaware that in a few years time, most of the people who you call your friends, won't care about you anymore. You will write in your friends books that you are going to be BFFs (best friends forever), tell them they are the best people in the world, that you are definitely going to keep in contact when you go to different colleges and universities because your friendship is so strong, and you repeatedly tell people that you wouldn't change them for the world. Or at least that's what I did, because thats what everyone else did too.
After school, you go to college and you know those people that you called your friends but weren't that close with? Well it is most probable that they will go and find new friends and cut you out of their lives. Peoples opinions change, peoples morals change, people's taste in music changes and hence forth, so do the people they hang out with. So down the stinker goes your BBF tag that you had for the few years you knew them at school and you both go separate ways. There are people who are lucky enough to have friends who stick around, how loyal. For me when college came around, for the first few weeks we all met up in the middle of town for lunch, as it was the mid-point between our two colleges. Then one of my friends went off with her new friends saying that she didn't think she was ever going to talk to us again. How delightful. We wondered for a while what we had done wrong,to make her feel like she didn't want to hang out with us anymore... it turned out she was just a bit of a bitch. A few months after this one of our other friends got a boyfriend and we started to see less of her, which we totally understood. We hangout with her and her boyfriends friends as much as we could, to show that we still cared about the friendship. Soon enough though, as it approached the end of our first year of college, things went tits up and lets just say, the two people in our friendship group who were closest, weren't speaking at all. Our friend kept choosing her boyfriend over us, and I think that was the last straw. Bros before hoes and all that. The three of us that were left in our school friendship group grew closer and came to terms that we had lost yet another friend in the space of a year.
I found that after college is when it gets really tough. They say that long-distance relationships can be hard, but they never specify with who it can be hardest. I still talk to 3 of my closest friends from college at least once or twice a week. I speak to my best-friend about once every two days and we snapchat on a basically hourly basis. I am glad that I have managed to filter my friends down to the people that I really enjoy spending time with and that I feel comfortable around. Its just an element of growing up I suppose, loosing friends and gaining new ones. But there are always people who it is harder to see go than others.
The other day I found out that one of my oldest friends has moved universities. How did I find this out? Through someone else's status update on Facebook. The last I knew she was still at the same university as me and commuting back and forth to see her boyfriend. It was only after the Christmas holidays that we lost contact completely. This was someone that I thought I was always going to be friends with.
They say that if a friendship can last 7 years it can last a lifetime; I don't agree. 12 years I had known my friend, that is the majority of my life, and for it to all just slip away that fast tells me that maybe we weren't as close as I thought. I feel closer to people that I have only known for a year, than I do her right now. I know we have both been in brief contact since the summer and I would love to see her again when I come back for Christmas. I would like to think that nothing has changed and that we will get on like a house on fire like we used to, but that is something that I cannot be sure of.
